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You are more likely to get raped by someone you know rather than a stranger; meaning that the chances of you being raped in a dark alley by some stranger are pretty slim. So from this information you need to be careful especially at parties where there is alcohol that might impair your judgment. If you are at a party and someone is being forceful with you stay NO! Don’t be nice about it or be worried about hurting someone’s feelings. At parties try not to set your drinks down ladies. A lot of times guys will slip something in there to try and get you in bed. Just be safe and be cautious at parties.  

Let’s say you did have sex at a party. You were drinking and a guy took advantage of you. You told him no but he continued. You didn’t think much of it because you are sure that it happens to a lot of girls and it is no big deal, he didn’t hurt you or anything. Girls this is rape. I don’t care if your judgment was impaired by alcohol, this is rape. And just because it happened by someone you knew and you don’t want to hurt his feelings by saying no, it is rape. Don’t be afraid to hurt someone’s feelings because you know them. Stand up for what you feel is right.

The rates of college campus rapes keep increasing, and this is a very important issue that needs to be addressed. However you can protect yourself, using the procedures in my last blog you can limit your chances. I believe the most effective one would be, watch what you are doing at parties especially. Don’t go into a room alone with someone, stay where everyone else is, and watch out for other girls as well. we can bring these statistics down girls, and I hope we do!

I will NOT be silent

                Did you know that only 10% of women report rape? It is very surprising, and I would encourage all women to stand up and not be silent. If we don’t stand up and tell authorizes then we will just continue to get raped. We need to put these people where they belong.  You should never feel like it was your fault. Rape is no one’s fault but the rapist. I hope that the reporting rape statistics go up. Ladies we need to take a stand and take it now, let us rise above and not be silent anymore!

                I have given you different forms of rape from my first blog. All are illegal and are a type of rape. I don’t care if you were drunk, or if your spouse raped you. Both of these are rape, and should be treated as such. Don’t let anyone try to blame you for being raped, nobody asks to be raped and I would like to meet someone who wants to. You should not feel ashamed or worthless because bad things happen to good people. Rape should not be the end of your life. I have never been raped, however I have went through a lot of abuse with a boy. I felt worthless when he would tell me I would never find anyone else and I was ugly. But after we broke up I got stronger every day. I learned from my experiences and became a stronger and smarter individual. So I would like to see women affected by rape make something positive from it; such as go to a school and talk about it informing other women about it. Or you could also fight to get that person behind bars so that the person could never rape another person.

                From this blog I hope to see rates of women reporting rape go up and women getting raped go down. I could not imagine what being raped is like, and I would never wish it upon anyone. This is why I want to warn young women about the risks they are taking by drinking or being in a violent relationship. I hope some good comes from this information I have provided, I wish to help young women get thought this and help prevent rape from happening.  I cannot prevent rape from happening, but I can provide logical information young women could use to make their chances of getting raped less likely. And please don’t be silent! Stand up and report the crime that has been committed.

Brain Food

1.       Men in Fraternities appear to engage in more non-physical coercion and use of drugs and alcohol as a sexual strategy than do independents.

2.       Every 21 hours there is another rape on an American college campus.

3.       90% of all campus rapes occur under the influence of alcohol.

4.        Men are more likely than women to assume that a woman who drinks alcohol on a date is a willing sex partner, 40% of men who think this way also believe it is acceptable to force sex on an intoxicated woman.

5.       Alcohol use at the time of that attack was found to be one of the four strongest predictors of a college woman being raped.

6.       43% of college men admit using coercive behavior to have sex, including ignoring a woman’s protest; using physical aggression; and forcing intercourse.

7.       College rape victims receive external physical injuries in over 47% of all rapes.

8.        Of the college women who are raped, only 10% report the rape.

9.       College women are most vulnerable to rape during the first few weeks of the freshman and sophomore years.

10.    One in twelve college-age men admit having fulfilled the prevailing definition of rape or attempted rape, yet virtually none of these men identify themselves as rapists.

11.   Most rapes occur on the weekends.

These facts came from www.crosisconectioninc.org

“College Campuses and Rape.” College Campuses and Rape. Psc, 2000. Web. 26 April 2011.

 From these statistics we can see that college women are at risk of being raped. I know it is scary and we want to ignore it but we need to face reality ladies, this could happen to us. The more we are prepared for it then we will decrease our chances of it happening to us. I hope from seeing this information it opens your eyes to what is happening on college campuses.

Protecting Yourself

            Rape on college campuses is going up ladies. And with me and a lot of my friends being college students, this scares me. And who wouldn’t it scare? We are fighting so hard as it is to be a woman, why should we have to fight for fucking rights about rape. It makes me so mad that this issue is not being taken seriously and it should be because it is a crime. In my last blog I wrote about marital rape meaning a spouse rapes you. Well some people don’t believe this is rape, a lot of states won’t even treat this as a crime! What the fuck? How can we let this happen? It is a crime; don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

            I want college women to know as much as they can about rape so that it doesn’t happen to them. There are some great tips I have learned that are pretty much common scene. Be aware of what is going on around you. Just be aware of who is around you and if something doesn’t seem right get out of there immediately or call someone and do not get off the phone until you are in a safe place.

            Avoid excessive use of alcohol or drugs. This can impair your judgment and more rapes happen under the influence of alcohol so be cautious when you are drinking, and don’t set your drink down to allow someone to slip something in it. In my experience, don’t go to a party alone either. Take someone you trust to be there for you and watch out for you. A good idea me and my friends use is one of us have to stay sober to make sure we all stay safe.

            O and my favorite one is to carry a whistle with you. If you fee l like you are in danger blow the whistle. This will draw attention to you making people notice you are in need of help. My suggestion is to put it on your key chain and when walking though a parking lot have your keys out!

            I really hope this helps, and if you have any questions please feel free to email me at aknorr@missouriwestern.edu. I would love to answer any questions you may have and if I don’t know the answer I will gladly research it!

Different Kinds of Rape

                Yes there are different forms of rape. I think it is important to know the different kinds there is acquaintance rape, stranger rape, marital rape, gang rape, and drug facilitated rape. They are all rape but they deal with who the rapist is.

                Acquaintance rape is being raped by someone you know. Which statistics show you are more likely to be raped by someone you know than by a complete stranger. I know this is scary so you need to protect yourself and be aware of your surroundings.

                Stranger rape, yep you guessed it is being raped by a stranger. This is less likely to happen than acquaintance rape, however it still does happen.

                Marital rape is rape that occurs by your spouse. Yes even married people can get raped by their spouse. A lot of states don’t even consider it rape, however rape is rape so don’t let them make you think otherwise. If you don’t want to have sex and someone makes you do it, its rape, report it even if it is your husband. It is illegal.

                Gang rape is rape that happens when a single individual is raped by a gang of people.  To me this is very scary. Don’t get me wrong all forms of rape are scary but this includes a group of people ganging up on one individual and raping them.

                Then there is drug facilitated rape which is when drugs or alcohol are used to impair and individual’s judgment. This is very common; this can be when you are drunk or are even drugged. And just because you were under the influence of alcohol or drugs doesn’t mean it isn’t rape. It is rape.

                Rape doesn’t just happen in a dark alley way, no in fact more rapes take place in the person’s home. Scary huh? Yea it is, so be aware of your surroundings and be cautious as to whom you let in your home. Protect yourself as well; carry mace or a whistle, or even both!!